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One study of 44 couples who had been together for over 10 years found that the relationships characterized by high communal strength (i.e. compromising or giving more than you get sometimes) showed higher levels of sexual satisfaction and overall physical intimacy. However, this goes beyond simply having sex, and there are many ways that you can increase the physical bond between you and your partner to reignite the flame that’s dwindled after a few years of dating and the comfort that comes with sweatpants and Netflix.

Increase the Romance

And, we’re not just speaking to the guys. 33% more men than women around the world say it bothers them “a lot” that their significant other isn’t more romantic, so the ladies can step it up in this department as well. Oftentimes, couples who have been together for more than a couple of years can fall into a routine of taking their partner for granted. By forcing yourself to try and woo them again, you are reminding yourself of how special they actually are. Take time to figure out what is romantic to them. Maybe it is a bubble bath or may it is simply doing the chores and bringing home their favorite meal for a romantic dinner in. And, chances are that if you break out some wine, candles and maybe even a few sexy moves, it will increase the chances that it will lead to something more at the end of the night.

Get a Little Crazy

While this is probably a tip you hear a lot surrounding physical intimacy and ways to spice up the sex life, it doesn’t simply mean radically changing your lives, building a sex dungeon and going to swingers parties. Getting a little crazy can mean slowly introducing things into the bedroom that you both feel comfortable with, but it can also mean allowing yourselves to explore your tastes individually. One of the best ways to enhance your sex life is to figure out what you personally like, and sometimes a little space to explore alone without your partner is what you need to figure that out. Try introducing toys into each other’s individual play time or even make a sexy game out of trying to find the perfect sex toy for your perfect. As there are many different types of toys for your man as well as yourself, it can make for a fun bonding experience before you even get to doing the deed.

Find Other Ways to be Intimate

Let’s face it, when life gets busy and you are struggling with stress, deadlines and maybe even a lack of proper sleep, it can be hard to find the motivation to stay intimate. The great thing about physical intimacy, however, is that it doesn’t always have to be about sex. While sex is a great way for two people to bond, if one or both of them are having troubles getting in the mood, you can still build physical intimacy by engaging in other activities such as massages, cuddling, and even working out together. Studies actually show that couples who sweat together stay together, as this releases bonding chemicals that can be just as effective as sex.

Focusing on the Needs of Your Relationship

However you go about trying to increase your physical intimacy with your partner, it is important to remember to focus on your needs as a couple and not those of others. It is easy to get caught up in comparing your relationship and level of intimacy to others, but at the end of the day, it is important to find out what works best for you and fan the flames in that way.